I posted on your short legs thread - I'm also a 30" inseam. I lowered my bike 1" both ends, and seems to work out perfect. With it 2" lowered, I was flat-footed. With it 1" lowered, I can still flat-foot it if I set the shock preload to a low setting, but I usually ride with it set to 4 out of 5 on stiffness. That'll work for you.
For the bars, I bought a set of Givi bars, and like them. They are easier to install than any of the other sets - important to me, since I figured I'd drop the bike and need to replace the bars eventually. They have a well-engineered geometry, no long unsupported lengths of bar, so they can use a thinner tubing, which is significantly lighter. I've dropped the bike on them twice on dirt at low speeds already, and no damage. Did I mention they are at the cheapest end of the spectrum? I'm a happy customer.
I've got an aluminum bash plate on my bike that's really nice - JNS plate. Came on my bike, and wasn't the model meant to work with Givi bars. The JNS rep was really helpful in advising me how to modify the plate to work with the Givi bars, and sent me the Givi-compatible hardware. That's customer support worth supporting. They make the Motec and Givi compatible versions.
I'm using the stock hand guards and and no headlight protector. Neither were damaged either time I dropped my bike, and I imagine it would take quite a strike to break either. You may be doing more serious off-roading than I am - hell, I go slow and avoid mud.
Heal up - in the meantime you can lower the bike, play with the shock preloads, and order/install your farkles!